How To Break “The Blame Cycle”. “To err is human. To blame someone else… | by Barbara Grace | The Startup | Medium
End the Blame Cycle with Empathy and Validation | Scott Kohner Psychotherapy
Rather, societies typically deprive criminals of human resourcestime, limb, life, or money-which have no relation to the particular
criminal harm.
PUNISHMENT AS DISTINGUISHED FROM SELF-DEFENSE
Consequently, during sentencing, I argued that the best way to “help”
this particular defendant was the distinctive way that criminal justice,
insofar as it meant to “help” defendants at all, characteristically
helped them: not by sending them to some bogus program, but by
punishing them (i argue that punishment and prison is comparable to rehabalititive goals and is equally just as bad as the “bogus” program being referred to). The accused had incurred a “debt to society” (figurative language here, feelings are real) which he
had to repay.By punishing the defendant, the judge would set things
right between him and the community. The judge said nothing,
instead seemingly coming unstuck in time. His blank,
uncomprehending stare struck me much as the empty look of a
lobotomized bovine: vacant, confused, and unknowing. I had clearly
gone beyond his experience, and beyond that of most sitting judges at
that time. I suspect that many people fail to understand the concept of
retribution even today (I understand that concept of retribution, that punishments’ value is rather intrinsic and done regardless of any other goal, it’s definitely possibly comprehendable)
Retribution: The Purposes of Punishment (upcounsel.com)
Consciously Moving Past Revenge and Retribution – BahaiTeachings.org
Humanities | Free Full-Text | Moving Beyond Retribution: Alternatives to Punishment in a Society Dominated by the School-to-Prison Pipeline (mdpi.com)
Moving Beyond Retribution: Alternatives to Punishment in a Society Dominated by the School-to-Prison Pipeline – DOAJ
Why You Like What You Like | Science| Smithsonian Magazine
Wealth Guilt: What to Do When Your Child is Ashamed of Your Family’s Wealth (cnb.com)
Is it bad that I feel guilty about being in a well-off family? – Quora
YOUR HOME IS THE GREATEST REFLECTION OF WHO YOU ARE. — JUSTUS (justuslove.org)
Testimonials – It would be an honor to be a part of your journey in life… (stephaniebartlett.com)
When Attracting Attention is Not Necessarily Attractive | Psychology Today
I don’t want to share anything with anyone. What does this mean? – Quora
Why do we feel the urge to share things? – Quora
What Makes People Overshare? – WSJ
Why We Feel the Need to Explain Ourselves and Justify Our Choices (tinybuddha.com)
Signs You’re Not Ready for a Relationship (insider.com)
Why Admitting Your Feelings Is The Strongest Thing You Can Possibly Do | Thought Catalog
Accept the Past, Embrace the Future, and Live in the Present (tinybuddha.com)
Murderers are Human Beings, too. Part 1 | by Chris Thompson | Murderers are Human Beings, too | Medium
What Do You Need Right Now? (becomingminimalist.com)
Being Proud of Your Race Doesn’t Make Sense | by Alex the Younger | Student Voices (mystudentvoices.com)
Want to Raise Successful Kids? Let Them Fail – CHC Resource Library (chconline.org)
“Not by Choice but Circumstance” by Gary Hardaway — Fictionaut
We Are Not Our Circumstances: A Lesson About Choice | by Rob Hill | Thrive Global | Medium
You’re a Product of Your Choices Not a Victim of Your Circumstances – Amy Morin, LCSW (amymorinlcsw.com)
A Thank You To My Second Family (theodysseyonline.com)
What are the limits of learning? | Physics Forums
Isaiah 5:20 Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who turn darkness to light and light to darkness, who replace bitter with sweet and sweet with bitter. (biblehub.com)
All Strength Comes From Repetition – Darius Foroux
Repeating breathing therefore repeated living
No healthy level of alcohol consumption, says major study | Alcohol | The Guardian
Peter Suber, “Against the Sanctity of Life” (harvard.edu)
Life is intrinsically bad or good. Hopeful/optimistic or not and rather pessmistic
The Sanctity of Life Must Be Opposed – Big Think
Review: The Sanctity of Human Life on JSTOR
How to Find Your Style | A Guide to Discovering Your Personal Style (thewelldressedlife.com)
How to go from being a loser to being successful – Quora
Get Inspired by These 7 Epic Losers Who Bounced Back From Failure (entrepreneur.com)
15 Things You Need To Be Successful That Your Loser Ass Friends Don’t Do. | by Tim Denning | Mission.org | Medium
Good Losers Go On To Become Successful (abacademies.org)
Understand Your Privilege and Use it for Good | UCL Department of Chemical Engineering – UCL – University College London
‘I didn’t choose to be straight, white and male’: are modern men the suffering sex? | Gender | The Guardian
Do You Have A Fear Of Vulnerability? How To Learn To Be Open With Others | ReGain
Bad Parenting: Signs, Effects, and How to Change It (healthline.com)
Exercise is Not a Punishment, It’s a Privilege – Trainerize.me
Exercise is a Privilege! | Community | Fitness Blender
99% of Networking Is a Waste of Time (hbr.org)
The Network Is Everything (entrepreneur.com)
Networking is everything in business – Proakatemian esseepankki
Abuse And Neglect: How Broken Children Become Broken Women | ReGain
Broken Children Become Broken Adults – Friends of the Children’s Justice Center of Maui (mauicjc.org)
Matthew 6:4 so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. (biblehub.com)
Matthew 6:3 But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, (biblehub.com)
Luke 8:17 For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be made known and brought to light. (biblehub.com)
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There has to be a breaking point to where one says, okay, I need to stop learning and observing and intervene.
I think the only validadity of the death penalty is if it’s used in self-defense, and not as a punishment; When you are given the choice to not use punishing and rather rehabilitating.
There are only a limited number of possibilties that can occur when you don’t know the answer to something
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